I called my son to the kitchen today to give me a hand with rolling out the tortillas for our lunch. Wearing his roller skates and carrying a paint brush, he whizzed up to me and asked if he could continue working on his important task instead of helping. He was busy painting a broken metal blade from a chainsaw he had found in November. Anyone who has the blessed fortune of living with an active-creative boy would know that it was in everyone’s best interest to send the roller skate-clad-boy back down to finish his project, allowing me a rare few moments of quiet peace, rolling tortillas for lunch.
It was what he said right before he headed to the basement that gave me pause: “Mom, I know what you should make!” I figured he was about to request a pan of brownies. “You should write a book called, ‘How to Control the Uncontrollable Child. I know you could write a book like that! It would be really good.” This is my youngest child of four, and I’ll just say that he isn’t the only child of mine that would at times be considered “out of control”. This boy has lived with three older siblings, watching them (and hearing them) move through teen years and even into adulthood. So, he has seen real life. I’ll also say the kids in this house aren’t the only ones in the house that are sometimes “out of control”! This family of mine, adults included, are far from perfect.
So, when he looked at me with a confidently cheerful face and proclaimed I could write that book, what made me pause is the reality that my son, who knows he is a mess of active-creative energy, believes that his mom hasn’t lost control of the situation. He can roller skate and paint a chainsaw and trust that his mom will guide him and teach him on how to develop self-control while loving and valuing the unique essence of himself. Even though we have lived some years of serious chaotic mayhem, there has been enough love, honesty, grace and growing here that he believes this mom of his could write a book.